Dating man selfish
That’s why six weeks ago I started dating other guys.
I didn’t tell the guy about this, which was totally wrong. –Rose Rose, Although your question is very similar to this one, which I wrote a few years back, I wanted to tackle it and see if I could shed some light on your situation.
We all know the types: the ladies’ man, the mama’s boy, the commitaphobe, and the nice guy who just wants to be friends (to name a few).
Adding to the non-candidates for adulthood is the man-child.
To cover up this shame, they are internally “still” and this “stillness” drives the giver in the relationship to want to keep on giving as a form of resuscitation since the taker often feels dead.
When the taker then gives up just a little, this feels so relieving to the giver – it is like a glimpse of a sign of life.
Unfortunately, unless something so obvious happens like someone refusing to share his dinner or her popcorn at the movies, or if you’re really good at noticing odd things about others, selfishness in another person is a difficult trait to identify early on in the relationship – before you fall in love with the person.
One such a study is by Dr Tim Phillips from the University of Nottingham and Institute of Psychiatry, King’s College, London.
I had just broken up with my ex-boyfriend, so I was a bit reluctant to take the new guy seriously.
A week or two later he started to act really cold, not texting or phoning me unless I did it first.
Unfortunately for you, the traits of a selfish person aren’t easy to notice, because they cover their darker side so well.
But as the relationship starts to grow, you’d start to feel emotionally weak around this person.